Writings devoted to exploring the joys and difficulties of practice, of sangha, and to that most important endeavor of all: learning to care as deeply as possible.

Friday, October 14, 2011

Hurting


Just a quick post.  Tonight, I hurt someone I care a great deal for.  I lied about something of great importance.  And it may change the special connection we have.  Perhaps trust can be mended, but perhaps not.

My stomach in knots, pacing up and down my room, my impulse is towards zazen.  My God, I want to sit right now.  Please, Lord, let me reorient myself!  Please let me begin to eat more healthily, to develop more healthy habits and desires.  I want so badly to practice right now.  Writing this, I am almost crying, and would be crying if I didn’t harbor emotional blockages I’ve developed to deal with emotional pain.  Certainly crying in my heart, out of shame, and heartache, but also because living a life of strong practice just feels like a fantasy. 

Slowly pacing.  I think of myself as the type of person who would not lie to another, or hurt another.  But this self-concept is not in accordance with reality. 

I do not see myself as clearly as I would like to believe.  I have so many attachments I am not aware of.  I have self-concepts that delude me.  Perhaps I am not even as good a man as I would like to believe.  Zazen and friendship is the best way to revaluate myself.  The first physical tear has finally fallen.  I hope anyone reading this may be filled with a calm love for all that is.      

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